by sarahmfry, March 04, 2010
Every heard of the familyman?  He has a fantastic free weekly email list for dads and fathers.  (I don't think wives are really supposed to listen in, but I do.)  He just has really good stuff to say, and it applies to moms/wives too! 

Here's today's email...see what you think:

Hey Dad,

Although the Olympic torch has been extinguished, I want to share a marriage tip I picked up during the Winter Games. To be honest, it’s been a tough couple of weeks in the Familyman marriage department. I’d like to say it was all ‘her’ fault...but I know the blame falls squarely on my shoulders.

I slumped around the house hardly able to motivate myself to do anything, let alone try to woo my wife. Even the Olympics were tarnished because of my mood. Then the light dawned as I watched a nameless Olympic cross country skier pumping hard and drooling like a hound dog on the trail.

The event was Nordic Combined. It ‘combined’ the odd events of cross country skiing and ski jumping. The Olympians jumped first and the lengths of their jumps decided the start times of the cross country race. So the guy who jumped the farthest got to start first. The second place jump was five meters behind the first so #2 started a few seconds AFTER the first place skier.

Most pathetic was that some of the best skiers started as much as TWO minutes behind the first place guy. One of the favorites botched the ski jump and had his start delayed by about a minute and a half. Amazingly...he caught up and won.

It wasn’t a quick sprint to win...he just plugged away and eventually passed the leader. That night as I lay in bed next to my hurting wife, I figured I was about a minute and a half behind...but I was going to catch up.

The next day I woke up determined. I smiled more, snapped less, and let my wife talk. I didn’t make up all the time immediately, but I made up a few seconds, and the next day I gained a few more. Over all, it took about five days to pull up by my wife’s side...and yesterday...we both won.

Some would say, just don’t let yourself get set so far back...but that’s unrealistic. Truth is sometimes even Olympic champion husbands find themselves WAAYYYY BAACCK. Maybe that’s where you are today.

Can I give you a little advice? Be patient. Don’t be surprised by setbacks. Set your sites on the finish line...and start making up time.

There’s an Olympian with a gold medal and a husband who is enjoying life with his wife who both know that it works.

I am that husband!  (

Change husband/dad to wife/mom and it works for us too...

Okay.  So maybe you feel like the hurting wife laying next to a MAN and you wish he'd read this email!  But maybe it works both ways.  Maybe they need us to be a little more cheerful.  Or a little less snappy.  Or to be patient their recurring man-ish moments.  Or to be the initiator.  Or to kick it up a notch and welcome him home to peace and warmth tonight instead of chaos and frustration. Or to brag on him and give him some wobble room.

It's just good stuff.  And just in case you're thinking about signing your husband up for these emails, just can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.   

P.S....Wouldncha know, my sweetness was challenged the evening of the very same day I posted this.  I found myself irritable and obnoxious and finding submission difficult.  So I quickly escaped to the grocery store to spare him the trial of knowing me.  I know, real grown-up.  But I got gas and groceries, got better and got home. 


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